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Michelle Icard | Expert Guidance on Parenting Tweens & Teens

Michelle Icard | Expert Guidance on Parenting Tweens & Teens

Helping you feel less stressed about raising tweens and teens.

  • About
    • Speaker Bio
    • Note from Michelle
  • Books
    • Books Overview
    • 8 Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success
    • Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen
    • Middle School Makeover
  • Speaking
    • Booking Inquiry
    • Keynote Topics
    • Testimonials
  • Private Consultation
  • Leadership Camps
    • Camp Overview
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    • Camp FAQs
    • Camp Testimonials
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ABOUT
   Speaker Bio
   Note From Michelle

BOOKS
   Books Overview
   8 Setbacks That Can Make a Child A Sucess
   Fourteen Talks By Age Fourteen
   Middle School Makeover

SPEAKING
   Booking Inquiry
   Keynote Topics
   Testimonials

PRIVATE CONSULTATION

LEADERSHIP CAMPS
   Camp Overview
   Camp Dates
   Camp FAQs
   Camp Testimonials
   Intern Application

MEDIA

CONNECT
   Inquiries
   Subscribe to Emails
   Join Michelle’s Parenting Group

8 Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success (Penguin/Random House 2023)

Every child messes up, sometimes in ways that seem sure to wreck their futures: a bad report card, poor sportsmanship, underaged drinking. These are tough moments for parent and child alike, often complicated by the fear that the misstep is also an indictment of our parenting. But what each of these “fails” has in common for our kids is the precious silver lining of a chance for character building and developing more grit—if we help them process their mistake well.

An invaluable playbook for anxious parents everywhere, Eight Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success offers specific and invaluable advice about what to say, what not to say, and what to do to help children in eight categories of tense situations.

Download the 8 Setbacks Discussion Guide

Are you a fan of bullet journaling?

Download our free guide to journaling your way through 8 Setbacks! New to bullet journaling? Think of it as a combo journaling – adult coloring book – note-taking activity!

Directions:

  • Print from a laptop or desktop (not a phone)
  • Deselect “scale to fit” before printing

Once you have your pages, you can cut them and tape/glue them into any A5 size bullet journal. Have fun!

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“Michelle Icard has written the playbook parents need to turn the inevitable challenges that come with growing up into opportunities for tremendous growth and maturation. This clear-eyed, practical, fun-to-read guide is an essential read for every parent” 

Dr. John Duffy, PsyD

author of Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety
“Too many of today’s loving, intelligent devoted parents are both afraid of and afraid for their children. Michelle Icard to the rescue! With a light, candid touch she offers deep insight and up-to-the-minute advice on a dazzling range of topics. My favorite perspective? A detailed child’s bill of rights that includes the right to make mistakes and, therefore, have the opportunity to learn from them.” 

Wendy Mogel, PhD

author of Voice Lessons for Parents, Blessing of a Skinned Knee, and Blessing of a B Minus
“Michelle Icard has written the playbook parents need to turn the inevitable challenges that come with growing up into opportunities for tremendous growth and maturation. This clear-eyed, practical, fun-to-read guide is an essential read for every parent.” 

Lisa Damour, PhD

author of Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers
“If you’ve ever worried about your kids’ mistakes, drop everything and read Eight Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success. It’s a smart, reassuring, and incredibly informative guide that will help parents recognize the value of failure and how to handle it.”

Melinda Wenner Moyer

author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes and award-winning science journalist

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