I can’t stop thinking about the newly viral You Tube video posted by Tommy Jordan, entitled Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen. You can watch it here if you haven’t seen it.
So many parents have jumped on this guy’s bandwagon and are responding to his video with verbal “pats on the back” and accolades for being a great dad.
We can all agree that this teen’s behavior was rude, offensive, and punishable.
I hope we also agree that sometimes our kids can drive us to the brink of insanity and that we might have irrational and outrageous reactions to having our buttons pushed.
What surprises me, though, is that so many parents see no connection between her “spoiled behavior” now and what must have led up this moment. This fifteen year-old girl didn’t become spoiled without help from her parents. If I fed my child a steady diet of Twinkies for fifteen years and then posted a video of me humiliating her for being fat, would the world congratulate me?
I suspect this girl complains so viciously about her chores because something bigger is wrong, but she can’t yet process it. If she had an understanding of the subtleties of her father’s personality and the vocabulary to express it, I think she’d be complaining about having been raised by a self-righteous and humiliating dad.
Three cheers for tough love and discipline! Three boos for this guy who doesn’t know how to do it right but thinks so highly of himself he thought he’d put it out there for the world to see.
Here are some specific things this dad does wrong:
1) Teaching his child to stop throwing a temper tantrum by throwing a temper tantrum.
2) Humiliating his child publically.
3) Punishing his child when he was steaming hot mad.
4) Spending $130 and 6 hours on his child’s laptop after he told her to get a job but she refused.
If you’ve seen the video, let me know what you think.